There are a few things that having a one track mind gets you.
2) Laid for 1-4 times, then dumped… maybe 5 if you’re really good in the sack.
That is if you can even get the girl in the first place. There are two main extremes of guys who are only after the pun-tang.
1) The player: the guy who slept with your sister, and her friend, and…your aunt Eileen?!
On one side they are very self expressed about it and they are not afraid to let any girl know that they are on the prowl for one thing. In fact many times they are proud of their mission to get laid. And these guys do get laid. They might not be happy and fulfilled, and neither are the girls they are sleeping with. Most of the time they do not open themselves up emotionally which makes it difficult to have fulfilling relationships. These guys don’t usually start searching for something more meaningful until they have a midlife crisis where they realize that all the supermodels they have banged only temporarily fill the void they feel inside. It takes them a long time to really experience the emptiness they feel because they can easily mask their vacant core with all the ladies coming and going through their revolving door.
Playahood can be a necessary stage…
Sometimes guys need to go through some sort of a player phase like this to realize they want something more. It’s hard to battle a really high level of testosterone until they have seen the way they feel when their life is run by it. They eventually realize that they aren’t getting what they want through all the shallow relationships. What they crave internally is something deeper and more intimate. This is when the man hangs up his player hat and looks for a more meaningful relationship; and if they are ready for it they start attracting more quality women that they could take home to mama. This is really an act of self respect because if you are disrespecting women, you know you are showing that same disrespect to yourself.
2) The creepy guy: the guy who wants it really bad but never gets it…not even Aunt Eileen.
The other type is guys who are ashamed of wanting to get laid and they try to hide their sexual desires and make everyone think they are really nice and sweet. THEY THINK if girls only knew how much they wanted to get all willy nilly in the bedroom with them, they would never even talk to them! These creepy guys are resentful and get down on themselves when girls put them in the friend zone and they don’t get any, they are jealous of the guys to just go out and get it. Many times these guys join the dating community to become sex machines like the more outgoing “player” vagina hunters. Sometimes they are successful and when these guys become good at taking girls home many times they eventually get depressed because it isn’t what they always fantasized it would be like. This is baffling and frustrating because even with all this new validation they think they will never be happy. This is usually when they become pick-up coaches. :) And sometimes at this point they start realizing that they aren’t getting what they really want and they try something new.
Most of my clients are the second type of guy, whether they made it to the community or not they realized that wasn’t the route they wanted to take. They wanted something fulfilling and real. I teach them that there is a different way to go about dating where they accept themselves as they are, without trying to put on an act of what they think an attractive man should be. They stop performing; if people want a performance they will go to a play. I help my clients look for relationship instead of self-gratification. Relationship starts with their relationship with themselves, what they feel internally is what they will manifest in a woman so we go to work on dealing with and erasing negative programs and creating positive ones.
The Perfect Mix: guys can respect themselves and women and still get laid?? Manswers asks…
The answer is yes you can. Some guys naturally have the desire and ability to create deep connections with women. Of course they get laid in the process but it is not their quest in life. Because they aren’t attached to getting laid, they find it happening easily. Every one down deep in their heart of hearts wants to feel close and intimate with the opposite sex, and further have someone more “special” to them than all the others. I believe this is the number one cause of pain in our culture today. Men and women want deep connections but many have no idea how to find them.
The people who get it and are able to experience deep connection with others are not afraid to be vulnerable about their pain. They aren’t ashamed that they are not perfect. We relate to each other through our imperfection. They are looking for someone else to share their experiences, hopes, fears, dreams, feelings, passions, etc. with and they are not afraid to put that stuff out there. Ultimately we all want someone who will know everything about us and like us anyway. The ones who get this attract the healthiest, quality women into their life… and of course there is plenty of vagina along the way.